Tuesday, December 30, 2014

"X" is for the "X-Factor"

Now this is a tough word to write about. There are very few words that start with this letter. So here's a little something about the "X-Factor".

What is  the "X-Factor"? Do you have it? It's defined as a character trait that sets someone apart from most people, and is also referred to sometimes as the "It-Factor". A reputed university in the United Kingdom conducted a research project on this subject and came up with a few essential characteristics that are a part of the personality of people, who supposedly had the "It or X-Factor" ---

Paying Attention

  These folks have a singular ability to make you feel as though you are the most important person in the world. We live in a world of constant distractions. These folks are not checking their i-phones or watching TV while they are talking to you. And we all like people who show interest in us.

Sense of Humor

  A person who smiles and can make you laugh is instantly likable. Contact with a person who is relaxed and cool, makes you feel the same way.

Intensity & Conviction

  People with the "X-Factor" are not wishy-washy. They hold an inherent conviction in their beliefs and are not apologetic about the same. Their positions don't vacillate according to the crowd they are in. This is a sign of quiet strength - an incredibly appealing trait.

Positive Energy

  You feel energized when you have a conversation with people who have the "It-Factor". They exude a positive vibe.

The same study also gave some character pointers that definitely ruled out the possibility of possessing the "X-Factor" ---

  --"Psychic Vampires!" -- you feel emotionally drained after talking to these people.

  --People constantly craving attention. Everything is always about them!
  --People with conveniently flexible principles
  --People who don't live up to their word.

"The X-Factor is a sparkle in people that money can't buy. It's an invisible energy with visible effects." ~ Anonymous


Saturday, December 13, 2014

"W" is for our obsession with "Waist-lines" !!

"I need to get my waist down by at least 3-4 inches, Doc. I'm going to my Silver Jubilee High School Reunion in India." The young looking woman was wringing her hands. She seemed distraught.
"When are you leaving for India?" I asked.
"In 2 months," she replied. "You see Doc, I haven't seen most of them since I graduated high school. That was 25 years ago. And I won't see them probably for another 25. I really need to lose some weight."
"You look good though," I said gently. "Why are you so bothered about folks you haven't seen in 25 years and like you said, won't see them again for another 25?"
"All the more reason Doc, they will carry that impression for the rest of their lives!" She said, throwing up her hands.
"So how does that matter....." I started, but then stopped. She had a her own point of view. It was not my place to lecture her. "Diet and exercise. That's the only way you can lose inches from your waist. But let me say this again, you look great the way you are."
"But how about the waist melter and fat burn tablets? Do those pills help?" she asked.
"If you get those pills, the only thing you help is the economy, not yourself," I replied.

We are a culture obsessed with being thin. Being fit does not mean being skinny. Maybe we should always eat healthy and exercise, as a routine and not just before special occasions. Especially during the holidays, people are so cautious about what they eat between Thanksgiving and New Year. Maybe we should be careful of what and how we eat between New Year and Thanksgiving.  As some wise person said - "Dieting is the penalty we pay for exceeding the feed limit."

Most of us are always trying to lose weight, but if we don't eat right, weight will always keep finding us, and generally around the waist. And its tougher to lose weight when we grow in years, because as time passes, our body and our fat become real good friends!

Eating healthy and dieting are two different things. Eating healthy should be a habit. Dieting is a fad that generally does not last too long. The first thing most people lose on a diet is their sense of humor, and worse, sometimes their temper.

I know plenty of people who are not thin, are not skinny, but look fabulous as a total person. Physical attributes are just a part of our appearance. The overall personality includes the vibe that we exude, our intellect, our sense of humor and our disposition, among many other things.

"My doctor told me to stop having intimate dinners for four. Unless there are three other people." ~ Orson Welles