Sunday, October 24, 2010

When life turns 'Topsy-turvy'.....

A happy couple, with two grown-up handsome boys, doing well financially.....and then one fateful day, 5 -years ago, the 21-year old elder son had an aneurysmal stroke that left him handicapped.....and the outlook on life for that particular family changed in an instant.

I had a long discussion with the father sometime last week. I could see the sadness in the depth of his eyes. The wrinkles on his face were more pronounced since I last saw him, brought on by the constant worry about his son. But he never complains.
"It's all God's will," he said. "We are still trying to adjust to the new normal in our lives. You never know when life throws you a twister."

I have believed over a long time that everything happens for a reason and it is generally for the best. Fate and Destiny have as many definitions as the number of people you ask. But I am hard pressed to find a positive spin on the young man's predicament. So I don't know whether I can believe the phrase "Everything happens for the best."

On the other hand, maybe there is more to events in our lives than what we can see or realize right now. We try to plan our lives but maybe there is a master plan, that God alone knows. A lot of times, I have ended up in places where I needed to be, not necessarily where I wanted to be. We can't control our destiny, but we can definitely shape it by making the right choices in moments of decision.

"Sometimes, perhaps, we are allowed to get lost, so that we may find the right person to ask directions from." ~ Robert Brault